Exercises for the Art of Intimacy

One of the main things we do, after we have gone through the romance stage of the relationship, is that we get close to each other and then find a way to destroy the closeness. Examples of this, as we come closer to a weekend, or a few days that we have the opportunity to be alone with each other, we create some way of getting into a fight, then spend the next two days processing the event.

When we become aware of this pattern, we begin to shift the pattern by acknowledging that it is no one’s fault, there is no blame, and we begin to look at the dynamics. What are the patterns and how do these patterns keep us from intimacy? Continue reading

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Secrets of Love

Fall in Love All Over Again
Make a conscious decision to be in Love.
The more you act as if you are in love,
The more you will feel like you are.

Remember the Good Times
Treat your partner like you did in the beginning of the relationship.
Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list.
Plan for them and make them happen. Continue reading

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Top Five Hypnosis Fears

Many people have hypnosis fears and doubts because they just don’t understand it.

Before a hypnosis session, I will ask my clients what their past experience has been. These are the top five fears that I hear:

1. I will get STUCK in hypnosis!

Wouldn’t you think, if someone was permanently stuck in hypnosis, that it would make the news? What can happen though is that people like it there. They want to stay in that delicious feeling of relaxation just a bit longer before opening their eyes.

2. I will do wild and crazy things!

I know, you’ve seen a stage show and watched the participants cluck like a chicken and dance like Madonna. Truth is, they are having lots of fun and chose to follow the hypnotist’s suggestions.

3. I will reveal all my darkest secrets.

Hypnosis is NOT truth serum. If something happens that your conscious mind is uncomfortable with, you will wake up in an instant. On the other hand, you will likely have a deep feeling of trust for your hypnotist and will allow the hypnosis to take place.

4. I will lose consciousness!

Actually you are hyper conscious and completely focused on the task at hand. This is why a stage hypnotist can get the desired reactions with a snap of the finger, clap of the hands or one softly spoken word.

5. I will be brainwashed.

No, it’s more like being led down a garden path by someone you trust to a predetermined destination. Your conscious mind will not allow suggestions that are unethical to enter.

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Essentials of Intimacy

One of the main things we do. after we have gone through the romance stage of the relationship is that we get close to each other and then find  a way to destroy the closeness. Examples of this, is as we come closer to a weekend lets say, or a few days that we have the opportunity to be alone with each other, we create some way of getting into a fight. then spend the next two days processing the event.

When we become aware of this pattern, we begin to shift the pattern by acknowledging that it is no ones fault, there is no blame, and we begin to look at the dynamics. What are the patterns and how these patterns keep us from intimacy? Continue reading

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Self Hypnosis for Weight Loss: Is It Just Willpower?

Is self hypnosis for weight loss just willpower?

Willpower refers to your ability to maintain control over your mind and body.

It is this self discipline and self control that most people initially turn to when they want to lose weight. Continue reading

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Are you Ready for Intimacy?

Are you ready to dedicate yourself to growth and to true intimacy?

There are three things couples do that keep intimacy at bay.

  • by not accepting your feelings,
  • by not telling the truth,
  • and by not keeping agreements.

So how do we move this into positive ways for success in the relationship?

  • by feeling all your feelings (and allowing the other to feel theirs).
  • by telling all the truth… no matter what.
  • by keeping all your agreements.

FEELINGS … When we do not allow ourselves to experience our feelings we are in disharmony to the self. That creates a disjointedness to the relationship.

And guessing what the other is feeling is impossible.

TRUTH… All of it. This is so scary for most of us. And by keeping the romance face alive… it’s nearly impossible. I am not saying that romance is not going to be available in the relationship… quite the contrary.

Romance is essential. We are together to be better people… to actualize… to become our True Selves. And we can only do that when we truthful.

AGREEMENTS… Many upsets in couplehood are about breaking agreements. Confronting this in our partner is very difficult. And it can be done… it must be done. Confrontation to these broken agreements scares us… anything to avoid unpleasantness. We know that many illnesses are a direct results of holding in our emotions, our anger turned inward.

The deal is responsibility… We must open up to every hidden part of ourselves and look within to find out how we are creating the situations we are in. A relationship is between people who are 100% responsible for their lives… Anything else is entanglement.A healthy relationship is one in which both people are absolutely committed to their own wholeness.

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Exercises

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What is post-traumatic stress disorder, or PTSD?

PTSD is a real illness. You can get PTSD after living through or seeing a dangerous event, such as war, a hurricane, or bad accident. PTSD makes you feel stressed and afraid after the danger is over. It affects your life and the people around you.

If you have PTSD, you can get treatment and feel better.

Who gets PTSD?

PTSD can happen to anyone at any age. Children get PTSD too.

You don’t have to be physically hurt to get PTSD. You can get it after you see other people, such as a friend or family member, get hurt.

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The Art of Intimacy

What is intimacy? Real intimacy is a journey into the unknown. Relating to another of the opposite sex faces us with the “great other side” of ourselves as a well… a whole range of unexplored qualities and dimensions of our being, beyond the familiar “me”. In confronting ourselves with the great unknown inside of us, it sharpens our senses and calls on us to grow and develop in ways we cannot foresee.

Intimacy is a way to become more fully alive. It helps us to bring forth the goodness and strength already present within us. Instead of looking at a relationship as a place of shelter, we have a gift of the relationship to open us up to a power within us. It wakes us up in those areas where we are asleep and where we avoid naked, raw, direct contact with life. This way of looking at a relationship, this real intimacy, commits us to movement and change. Providing a forward direction by showing us exactly where we need to grow the most. Couplehood is about becoming the best possible people we can be. Maslow calls this self-actualization. Knowing whom we are, how to truly love, and how to be of service to humankind. And through intimacy and love, we can attain this.

So dreaming that love alone, romantic love, will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security, only keeps us stuck in wishful thinking. For deep love to flourish, for relationships to flourish we need to see couplehood in a different way —’a series of opportunities for developing greater awareness, discovering deeper truth, and becoming more fully human.

When we open ourselves to these growth opportunities and possibilities, relationships become an incredible place for intense growth. In separation, meaning individuation, alone and not in the couplehood, we are unfinished. To become an actualized being means discovering our fullness and learning to live from it. This involves bringing forth more of who we really are and becoming more available to whatever life presents.

Therefore, intimate relationships inspire our hearts to open while at the same time activating all the pain and confusion of our contracts to work out life together, our karmic entanglements. By karma, I mean the conditioned personality patterns that narrow our perceptions and keep us asleep. Starting from birth we accumulate obstacles to our growth in many different ways.

So this workshop is a step toward opening the heart to True Intimacy. Below we will discuss:

1. Essentials of Intimacy

  • Truth
  • Feelings
  • Agreements
  • Responsibility
  • What are projections?
  • Blame
  • Re romancing the couplehood

2. Exercises to further our Intimacy

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9 Health Improvements of Quitting Smoking

Quitting Smoking Gives You these  9 Improvements in Your Health

Quitting smoking? Did you know…

  1. The very minute you quit, your overall health begins to improve?
  2. Just twenty minutes after you stop smoking, your heart rate and blood pressure become normal again?
  3. In only twelve hours after quitting, the carbon monoxide level in your blood returns to normal?
  4. Two weeks after you quit smoking, your circulation improves so that walking becomes easier?
  5. Three months later your lung function increases and you can enjoy breathing again?
  6. After one to nine months, coughing and shortness of breath decrease?
  7. In roughly one year – your stroke risk is the same as a non- smoker?
  8. Ten years after quitting – the death rate from lung and other cancers is about half that of a smoker
  9. After fifteen years of giving up smoking, your risk of heart disease is the same as a non- smoker?
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